Dealing with Nerves When Talking to Someone New
Meeting someone new can be exciting, but let’s be honest—it can also be nerve-wracking. Whether you’re at a networking event, a social gathering, or even just chatting with a new colleague, those butterflies in your stomach can start fluttering like they’ve had one too many espressos. But hey! Who doesn't love an espresso ... or three!
But don’t worry! Here are some tips to help you calm your nerves and make a great impression.
Start with a Smile
It sounds simple, but a genuine smile can do wonders. Not only does it put the other person at ease, but it also helps you feel more relaxed. Plus, smiles are contagious—if you start with one, chances are, you’ll get one back. And just like that, you’ve broken the ice without saying a word!
Break the Ice with a Simple Question
If you’re feeling a bit jittery, start the conversation with something easy and open-ended. Ask about their day, comment on the event, or if you’re at a party, compliment their choice of drink or outfit. A simple question can get the ball rolling and take the pressure off you to perform. Remember, it’s not an interview—it’s just a chat!
Breathe (No, Really, Breathe)
Okay, this one’s worth repeating because it really works. Before you dive into the conversation, take a deep breath. In through the nose, out through the mouth. It’s like hitting the reset button on your nerves. And while you’re at it, remember to breathe during the conversation too. Slow and steady wins the race—and helps you keep your cool.
Be Curious, Not Perfect
One of the best ways to ease your nerves is to shift your focus from yourself to the other person. Be genuinely curious about them—ask questions, listen to their stories, and show interest in what they have to say. When you’re focused on getting to know them, you’ll be less worried about how you’re coming across. Plus, people love talking about themselves, so it’s a win for everyone!
Embrace the Awkward Silences
Awkward silences happen—they’re a part of life. Instead of panicking when the conversation hits a lull, embrace it. Take a sip of your drink, smile, and let the conversation breathe. Sometimes, those little pauses can actually help the conversation flow better. And if you’re really stuck, just ask another open-ended question. You’ve got this!
Remember, It’s Okay to Be Nervous
Here’s the thing: being nervous is totally normal. Everyone gets a little jittery when meeting someone new, even if they don’t show it. Instead of trying to banish your nerves, acknowledge them and give yourself some grace. It’s okay to feel a little anxious—it just means you care about making a good connection.
Visualise a Positive Interaction
Before you step into that new conversation, take a moment to visualise how you want it to go. Picture yourself speaking confidently, the other person responding warmly, and the conversation flowing naturally. This positive visualisation can help set the tone and reduce your anxiety.
Reflect and Learn
After the interaction, take a moment to reflect on what went well and what you could improve. Every conversation is a chance to learn and grow. And remember, the more you practice, the more comfortable you’ll become talking to new people. Soon enough, those nerves will turn into excitement.
So, the next time you’re about to chat with someone new, remember: you’ve got the tools, the charm, and the confidence to make a great impression. Take a deep breath, smile, and enjoy the conversation—who knows where it might lead!
Happy reading, and happy meeting new people,
Valerie Miller 🌸
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